It seems to me that you 2 are compatible and in getting what you want, you tolerate some things that are a bit more than you want.

It seems like this is a good time to really think about exactly what you do want and what you don't. Your husband should also do the same. And while I suggest you will both need to go through some healthy discussions, you might find it easier to get the discussion going by first writing out your likes and dislikes and giving it to the other to read.

In the 'dislikes' area, issues mentioned here should not be seen as a criticism of the other, but an area that has been failed to be communicated in the past, and needs to be discussed now.

I wish you luck in using the communications to grow closer together and both get closer to achieving their wishes.

Brosco