I am married to my Master. W/we met online 9 years years ago, met IRL a year later and then married a year after that. I was in a vanilla marriage for almost 10 years and I will never go back to that. I love being in a BDSM marriage. I feel very secure as Master's sub and wife. There is so much more open communication between Master and myself than I ever had in my vanilla marriage. There is a great deal more respect on both sides, a lot more affection and a lot better sex.
My first husband was abusive to me and was a drug addict/alcoholic, so Master had His work cut out for Him when W/we first met. I had built some very high walls around myself so that I couldn't get hurt by another man. Master proceeded to break down those walls, little by little, brick by brick. I'm afraid that even after 9 years He is still having to undo some damage. But my BDSM marriage is wonderful and I haven't looked back.