Quote Originally Posted by mastersgem View Post
Amber, i've no idea how old you are and truly it matters not, you're an intelligent gurl and that is clearly evident in all your posts, you show an insight and maturity that is refreshing

i agree that the sub needs to accept responsibility in it as well but some younger ones wouldn't, and couldn't, even begin to know what that is and if they are sub relying on a Master, the chances of them really knowing without experiencing is even less - in that light, i have to agree more with Sir Russell in that the older, more experienced, Dominant needs to tread very carefully here and take the responsibility seriously in how he may affect and/or damage a young one.
(Just for clarification's sake, I'm in my twenties.)

You're entirely correct gem, as were Tojo and Sir Russell. There are many many women (and men, for that matter) that "wouldn't and couldn't begin to know" what emotional maturity is, much less excercise it in the face of passion and desire and the unique chemistry in a D/s relationship. I suspct the nugget of semantics I was trying to unearth was that emotional maturity is not always attached to age, and that if a Dom can respect and love a woman enough to want to take her on as His sub, that I would hope He would consider her mature enough to decide for herself if the age difference is going to be a problem. If a Dom ever doubts a sub's ability to fully understand what she is getting into, I would hope He would not agree to take responsibility for her in the first place.

Of course, I am trying to put myself into a Dom frame of mind here to consider this, so any Dom's that would like to weigh in (again) I'd love to listen!