Quote Originally Posted by Tojo
For once I disagree with you Brosco.
Hey, no probs, imagine how boring a forum would be if it just contained subsequent posts of:
"I agree"
"I agree"
....

Many relationships have a little abuse in them- I once told my wife to 'shut up' (many years ago I might add!)

As with most things it takes two to tango, & two to work it out. I kept hearing about the 'shut up' incident for something like 10 years after it happened! It was just her way of saying it was unacceptable.
Now to me this is an excellent example of how we have used 'rules' in D/s to improve relationships. One does wrong and it is discussed and possibly they are punished, the issue is then closed. When an issue is constantly reraised, it clearly was not given the closure required by the other. A part of my D/s philosphy is that once a matter is dealt with, its no longer available to be thrown back in your face. Its one of the reasons that subbies 'like' punishment, it provides closure. If a Dom used that 'failure' again to criticise his subbie .. it goes back to the 'acid test' thread.. he ain't a Dom.

Brosco