Without the proper knowledge a BDSM relationship can easily become an abusive one. Both involved parties owe it themselves and each other to gain that knowledge before proceeding down a dangerous path.

But the dom is ultimetly the one who has the responsibility to protect his sub. Even to the point of protecting them from themselves.

There are many articles to help a dom gain knowledge about BDSM. Many are posted here. While learning by doing is sometimes a good thing, studying can help avoid many of the problems that this couple is having.

BDSM is no game to be played lightly if it is to be than just casual kinky sex. And people who wish to live it as a lifestyle should do their homework before playing.

While even the best doms will always learn by doing, they will also make sure that they have studied everything that they can in advance of real playtime.

His sub uses a safeword and then tries to take it back. That is a situation that screams out that there is a lack of understanding, planning, and control of both sub and scene. I make no apologies for my comments. This is not some parlor game!