I applaud Delia for what IMHO is the best response to this. Large discrepancies in age of partners only seems to be a "big deal" to those who see it as a problem in some unforseeable future. But who lives in the future? I don't live there anymore than I live in the past. If you find a partner who fulfills what you want and need now, isn't that the important thing? As for thinking about some distant future? Well, who would have children then, knowing they were going to be, say, 70, and their child only 50? or 30? or even 20? Charlie Chaplin married Oona O'Neil (daughter of playright Eugene O'Neil) in 1943. He was 54; she was 18. Chaplin died in 1977. They were together all that time in a fruitful and apparently happy marriage. Thirty-five years is a marvelously long time to share together a loving relationship. Sure, more might be better, but if the relationship and chemistry work, why make age difference the criteria for unhappiness now?