He makes the big decisions, but is always interested in my thoughts. If I am concerned he isn't callous about his decisions. He will listen to my concerns and explain why his way is better. And he is usually right. I know he works hard for us and all his decisions are based on what is best for the family.

But all in all he is in charge all of the time. Does he ask me what restaurant I want to go to? Yes, and he will take me where I choose. I do drive if I have to, but normally he does all the driving when we are together. But I do have mom things to do that I need to drive.

I show him respect 24/7, he takes care of me 24/7, I look up to him for courage, and guidance 24/7.

Thank you kitten. You just nailed it. All I was trying to say is you don't have to be D/s for that. You can have all of that in vanilla too. I am living proof. It comes with time and a lot of work.