I thank you greatly for your understanding of the situation. We are about 90% happy with the relationship. We have gotten there thru communication. We do need to continue with positive communication. She still feels, to some extent, guilt for enjoying being humiliated, etc. Basically she is bit confused, as am I. I often, not as much as before, get frustrated because of the lack of communication-holding back- on her part. However, i have come to eunderstand that is her way of being and to cool it, and discuss the situation later, when she is feeling more confident about herself. This have been a very positive step for both of us, because I say less mean things, and she opens up more. thanks again.