*looks in here* What the hell is everybody doing in Germany? *grins*

Oh, and I would not call the BoundCon a party - it is a Convention. There is a party supposed to be held elsewhere afterwards, but as far as I know the one before last was cancelled on extremely short notice (last year), so we did not bother to inquire about the next (this year).

The one I loved best was the Europerve in Amsterdam. One thing I like about parties is that whenever I come in and see what people do, I think "oh my God, I am really harmless by comparison". Ahem.

As for the etiquette - one thing I donīt understand are people with no manners. I myself try to treat the "pervy people" as normal and politely as I would treat any stranger I would meet at any other party/place, and that always worked well, without me having to learn tons of rules.

With private parties or groups that meet publicly on a regular basis, I agree there may be lots of different styles and rules. But as I am not a scene person (I hate scenes of all kinds, as from what I experienced it is alway blabber and stupid games being pulled off behind other peopleīs backs, and I really hate that), I cannot really tell. Hubby has way more experience with that, as he was among the founding members of the first German BDSM Association.