Quote Originally Posted by Dongthong2005
Wow Brasco: what a very accurate understanding you have of our situation (at least part of it). In the last two paragraphs, you summed it up well.
Thanks

Dongthong

While it does my ego good to know that I got it right, this isn't a 'quizmaster' TV show, but reallife. It places a lot of onus back on you D to be patient with your wife as she struggles through understanding more about herself. This clearly isn't easy for her or she would not have posted in the first place about her fears and confusion. She is going to need your support and understanding to work thru and live with her life's choices.

It is not a 'weak' Dom that can step back and look at his subbies needs and cries for guidance. It is one of the strengths that keeps her with him. It is a strong Dom that can see he is also part of the 'problem' and is prepared to be self critical and make changes in himself too.

I have the confidence that you know this and, not only allowed your wife to post here, but did so yourself when others in your position would have taken exception to some of the more 'hostile' responses. I admire you both for being able to share some of the tougher parts of a lifestyle, instead of just the rose-coloured glasses part that some want us to see.

I do wish you both the very best in the future as you work thru issues together and grow even closer, rather than apart. For that, you should be the envy of many people here.

If either of you ever need a third person as a shoulder or an ear, I will be happy to hear from you, either here, or privately.

My sincere regards

Brosco