Quote Originally Posted by fantassy
or, since her crime was orgasming without permission, tie her up so she can't resist and then tease her mercilously WITHOUT giving her a great orgasm or three.

fantassy
This is certainly part of my 'master' plan (if you'll pardon the pun).

Some great responses already, thanks everyone for your input. What I'm trying to wrestle with now is the balance between pre-planning things (to ensure I don't dry up mentally) and spontenaiety.

My ideas so far start with stripping her (or ordering her to) to delineate from the "wife" and "slave" parts of her day. I'd then give her some basic rules (no cumming without permission, no talking without permission, obeying orders without hesitation) and some preparation tasks to do (cleansing, shaving etc) and then dressing in the clothes I will have laid out.

To kick off the whole teasing thing, I will require her to masturbate, but without permission to orgasm, repeatedly in the bath and while dressing.

My next thought was to go into the "rules for the evening" with her in more depth - but as a 2-way activity, ie give her the opportunity to set some boundaries:
- her safeword (perhaps an amber "stop this thing" and red "stop it all")
- things she wants to get out of the night
- things definitely off limits
- secret desires for the night (hopefully if I have played the masturbation right up to this point, her resistance will be lower and she may suggest a few activities at the edge of her limits she would like to try if she is ordered to do them)

Exactly where I go beyond this is TBA at the moment, but I foresee perhaps an outfit change for her at some point (setting the opportunity for some discipline for transgressing some rule I will have thought up to which her new outfit does not conform), plenty of focus on my physical pleasure (sexual and otherwise) and plenty of frustration for her before, doubtless, permitting her orgasm - after an appropriately humiliating amount of deferential begging! I think this is fast becoming my kink!

How am I doing so far?

Do I need to up the correction and punishment aspect of the experience - is this integral to a dom/slave session or down to personal proclivity? Spanking at least is one of her kinks - does a 'good' dom let himself be influenced by this? If so is it by withholding it as a punishment in itself, or emphasising it?

I'm intrigued by Brosco's suggestion about how far the mental side of it can go. It would not have occurred to me to consider 'normal' activity like doing the dishes (realise this was only an example) but gives me some thoughts about wider ideas of 'servitude' for her slavery! Anyone else care to corroborate this?