i need advice on this one..

[jeanne]

I'm just wondering whether i'm being silly in continuing this sort of thing, i mean, if i'm being psychologically abused by this person (who i know loves me dearly) because i'm trying to build the relationship into something that it's not.

Yes, you DO know. You just said it.

There's a world of difference between a Dominant and an asshole. Thank you for showing us what exactly that is. Now, get away from him!