*hugs to icey* hunnie it's awful what you've had to go through truly and i'm happy to hear you and Icehawk have weathered it, although at a high cost

i have probably three friends who know what my interests are, i never get into details and have no need or want to share any of my desires with them as i'm sure they have no desire to share their sex life with me either - why would we want to? it's a private thing between two consenting adults and i don't think it needs to be put in anyone's face, nor do i feel the need to justify who i am

i spent a great many years feeling ashamed of the feelings i've always had and the only difference between now and then is i embrace who i am within myself and now look for a different kind of relationship, instead of the abusive ones i used to settle for

the only outward change (or evidence) people have noticed in me is that i don't accept people in general taking advantage of my submissiveness or 'niceness' as most vanilla people see it as - i still help everyone around if i can, but i no longer feel bad if i want to say no and some of the people around me are finding that a little hard to accept *winks*