Ending a relationship

[TomOfSweden]

Hello all,

I need assistance.

I've been in a relationship with a Dom for approximately 5 months and this is my first real-time D/s relationship. We knew our time together would be temporary due to His obligations and responsibilities and as we could only see each other a couple times a month, however, our emotions have gotten involved.

Recently, I suffered a loss in my family and when this occurred, by emotions were understandably out of whack. I decided that life was too short and that I wanted to experience as much as possible as I've had a pretty rough time of things the majority of my life. That being said, I had the "collar" discussion with "my" Dom. He was very happy that I decided to accept His collar and we've been looking for one that I could wear at all times. By the way, we hadn't actually decided on a collar and that helps a bit.

Well, fast forward 2 months and once again I've come to the realization that I absolutely will never be a priority in His life. I thought I could accept that, but I can't. I take full responsibility for agreeing to accept His collar...I know it's best not to make decisions during any emotional times in my life, but I can't change the past.

I'd like to remain friends with Him and explain that I really need/want more than a less than part-time relationship. I know many have relationships where they see their Dom's only a couple times a month, but this does not work for me. I'd like to end this relationship as amicably as possible. Also, I'd like to talk with Him face to face as I think and this type of discussion via e-mail or IM may seem a bit cold.

I guess I'm asking Doms and subs how they've dealt with this situation.

Please, please, please try to be kind with your responses. I fully accept that everyone is entitled to their own opinions and I know by posting this type of question on a forum that I may be blasted, but what I face is going to be painful enough as it is. I just hope someone can understand what I'm going through.

Thank you so much for any suggestions.

I suggest you show him this post. It's is honest, eloquent and to the point. You will make him sad no matter what you do. It's a fact of life. But remember. It's you that's the important one for you. I know a subbie brain doesn't work that way, but you'll just have to be your own master and force yourself to believe it if you want to end this with your sanity intact.

Good luck, and you'll always have friends here.

[Mr.FixIt]

I suggest you show him this post. It's is honest, eloquent and to the point. You will make him sad no matter what you do. It's a fact of life. But remember. It's you that's the important one for you. I know a subbie brain doesn't work that way, but you'll just have to be your own master and force yourself to believe it if you want to end this with your sanity intact.

Good luck, and you'll always have friends here.

Right on Tom--I'm impressed!