Quote Originally Posted by Ozme52
I'll pose the same basic question to you Brosco. Given all else equal, you would prefer not to be with fantassy in real life?

let me take a shot at answering your questions, Oz. Do I imagine being with Brosco in real life. Yes. Would I prefer to be with Brosco in real life - not necessarily.

==> Yes, it is the issue if you feel it will eventually provide more than you have now.

In many ways of course being together in real life would provide more than we have now, BUT it also would provide more troubles than we have now. We have a huge age difference - not an issue online - probably an issue in real life. I'm preparing to start a new demanding career; Brosco is semi-retired. Brosco smokes; I'm allergic to smoke. I adore cats; Brosco doesn't care for them. I tend to come-and-go as I please and work late hours without notice. All of these things would be problems in a real life relationship but are completely unimportant to an online relationship. So, one needs to keep in mind that the "more" you have in real life isn't all good stuff.

==> Well, there you go... because I wasn't thinking about, or answering, the question in terms of a fantasy relationship.
I don't think Brosco was really talking about a fantasy relationship, but about a mental relationship. I have a basic idea what he looks like and vice versa. I think we have been honest in what we say to each other. But the true attraction, at least for me, is to Brosco's brain. I really like the way he thinks - not just in d/s stuff but in general. In a way, online can, if you are both being honest, allow you to get to know one another better without all the physical crap getting in the way.

Anyway, that's my two cents.