Quote Originally Posted by Ozme52
I'll pose the same basic question to you Brosco. Given all else equal, you would prefer not to be with fantassy in real life?
Neither of us are in a position to be r/l at the moment (and wont be for some considerable time). The truth is we are getting more time together than if we were r/l - plus, as fantassy has already stated we enjoy getting into each others head and that would be harder to do with the physical distraction. So when all is assessed - we are happier and better off where we are.


==> Yes, it is the issue if you feel it will eventually provide more than you have now. That was exactly the point I was making.
No... you misunderstood me. Maybe fantassy or I may want more in the future.. and not necessarily from each other. I cannot predict the future. All I can say is the here and now.

==> Well, there you go... because I wasn't thinking about, or answering, the question in terms of a fantasy relationship.
Again, i am afraid you misunderstood me. Hopefully fantasssy explained this better. Because we do get into each others heads we can use some fantasy as an aid to what we are really doing. For example, it only takes a piece of rope around her wrist and she can feel hopelessy bound. Its a mindset we can create. But we aren't creating a fantasy about bondage, we are just creating a mindset that is an aid to what we are doing. We are able to use the mind with some fantasy aspects to dramically add to our reality. In an online environment this is easier to do because of the 'loss' of the physical presence, other senses increase.

Brosco