Blushes and admits that fantasy is different than scene, but that my bondaries for fantasy were not imposed in a different manner. While I might not push my limits in a scene to the same place that they are in my fantasies...I still have to work to accept the lifestyle as part of those fantasies, wherever that may take me.

I do understand your dilema in making choices for your character. It does seem difficult to make decisions in that way...could that perhaps be a part of our submissive or dominant traits? We depend so much on trust and permission going both ways that it may be inherent for you to feel as if your charcter feels the same.

It's just my two cents...well, four in this case *w