Quote Originally Posted by gagged_Louise View Post
I think sexual fantasies should sometimes aim to be dangerous, vertiginous and uncomfortable - that's in their nature, one side of them. I don't often feel that while writing, but sometimes after it's been published here, or in reading it for myself, feeling that now it's spelled out and open to see for others, it may or may not be something I would want to carry through in real life, but the wish or thrill is there. Tessa once said as we were discussing this that a core point of submission was the wish to be cherished in your lowest, most primitive form, one could also read that as the most rough and "sinful" form 8and thereby getting forgiven and accepted deep in your most naked being). With her intuition I think she uncovered a central truth there: needing to be taken and made to give from your most hidden, most primitive layers is part of submission, and that may come out in strange forms.
That's a really good point, and well-put. I think a powerful part of submission for me is the feeling of being exposed. A lot of the time I feel like people I meet like me because they don't really know me; with D I feel like he has power over me because he knows all of my secrets and still loves me.