I can sympathize with your feelings, but I believe some of the other's that have been here longer and are more wiser, are partially correct. What I would do is not adopt any one of the answers, but gleen the best of each, and use it to help with your feelings. I believe that this lifestyle was showen to you, you became enamoured with it, but to his way of living, it might have been a one night stand. Not something he expected and knows not how to cope with it. Give yourself time, ask questions, get answers that satify you, and then make a descision as to who, whom, or what ever you want to follow.

Best Wishes for you delima.