i'd have to agree with everyone that has said you don't go around advertising your sex life on a general basis anyway. i don't see the difference with a BDSM relationship. However, i do believe that education is so important for those that label the lifestyle in a negative manner. If i am present and hear someone openly discussing and thrashing a lifestyle that they evidently are very mis-informed on, i will do my best to re-educate and point out that it is only another form of bigotry to *trash* an alternative lifestyle. And i too am grateful for all those that have taken the chance to offer me the oppurtunity to learn from their experiences.