i agree that limits of any kind are highly individualized from couple to couple, but kudos for this thread! i can honestly say that this is the first time i've heard of limits discussed outside of the bedroom/play area. It is an interesting question and one that i would have to consider. i agree with icey that anything that would affect my children is a no go for sure. i would hate to cut my hair as i'm partial to long hair (more to hold on to..*grins*). i would not mind someone else picking my clothes out. If it pleased him to see me in something, why wouldn't i want to wear it? Great discussion, and i'll be returning as i think of more things.