where to stop

[jeanne]

comments made by, tojo,mastersgem and lily made me sit up and take notice because no i dont get much from life (this is not a pity thing) other than bdsm play my children and Icehawk and even thats hard for me another medical thing!

Warning: I'm going to state my opinion here...and it's a bit harsh.

The statement above makes me sad and a little angry. If you're well enough for the kind of play you and Icehawk do, then you're well enough to have a more well-rounded life. Get out of the house and do something, woman! Whether it's exercise or volunteer work or just going to a movie once a week...do something to bring more balance into your life. You're seeing for yourself the results of having a life that's practically one-dimensional...pushing that one dimension as far as possible. It's easy to get extreme in some aspect of life when we're bored...so get un-bored.

[icey]

you didnt sound harsh and i agree,i didnt mean to come acoss as miserable or self pitying ...im not too good with words lol

yes im ok to play,its not the boredom side anyway i prefer being with just my family thats how im happiest, what makes me kind of sad or reflective i guess is the fact that i am that way if that makes any sense at all.

funnily enough though i had thought about volunteering,to work with an animals rescue type place,i just need to get the confidence and look into it,excersise is a no-go area for me i have a bit of an addictive personality and last time i did that i became obsessed lol ...aaargh this is coming out all wrong,i sound like im whinging or something and im not,think i better shut up now!

[gemmy]

what makes me kind of sad or reflective i guess is the fact that i am that way if that makes any sense at all.

funnily enough though i had thought about volunteering,to work with an animals rescue type place,i just need to get the confidence and look into it,excersise is a no-go area for me i have a bit of an addictive personality and last time i did that i became obsessed lol ...aaargh this is coming out all wrong,i sound like im whinging or something and im not,think i better shut up now!

*smacks you* lol you articulate just fine gurly :P

I am much the same way in that I truly do like just being at home with my daughter, we don't have to be go, go, go all day everyday and in fact, when we are in that position, I truly hate it - I'm a casual, slow kind of person and more so in the winter where I tend to just hibernate and putter around the house. In the summer we do get out a lot more with camping and things like that but life doesn't have to always be moving ahead at top speed - what works for you and makes you happy is all that matters.

I find myself defending my want to just 'hang' at home to lots of people who say I should be doing this, or doing that - blah - why? I work three jobs (one fulltime and a couple part-time) and spend time with friends here and there and that's more than enough for me. When I'm home, I don't sit and mope, I relax and enjoy it completely

If you aren't working icey hun, you may really enjoy a couple hours a week volunteering with animals if that's a passion for you, it may help release some energy that seems to be niggling at you