Quote Originally Posted by delia View Post
Ok all you silent switches (and others with experiences in switching...),

When does a sub become a switch?

There are many subs out there who enjoy Dominating other subs. Does this make them switches? Or are they just subs with alpha sub tendencies? Is a sub in a 3-some who subs to the Dom but Doms the other sub a switch or an alpha sub?

I ask because there are many subs out there with "switching tendencies", but they don't consider themselves switches, they consider themselves subs that just "play." Are they switches? Are they subs?


Discuss.
A submissive becomes a switch the same way everyone else does, i.e. by realizing he/she enjoys being in control of another and being controlled by another. If a "sub" truly enjoys dominating other subs, he/she is a switch. If a sub is only dominating another at the instruction of a dom and not enjoying it at all, except in the context of pleasing the dom, then the sub is just topping from the bottom.

Think about it for a minute. The flip of a switch (pun intended) is to be in the presence of someone more dominant or more submissive than himself/herself. Sometimes, this can occur within the relationship if both involved are switches. I think it's a bit ridiculous to think we need 100 extra words to describe the same damn thing just because people want to feel they are somehow different or don't want to feel different at all. Guess what? You're not *that* different!

In my opinion, an alpha sub is only a sub in a polyamorous relationship. To be number one, there must be a number two...or three. It's the same as saying "first wife" where people practice polygamy.

You can call yourself a sub who likes to play or a dom who is selectively submissive if it makes you happy, but you could save yourself some syllables and just say what you are.....SWITCH.