icey,
Her joining a munch group may not be such a great idea from what I have seen of them the wannabees, posers and abusers are the guys all over the newbee sub. All brag and boast doing their best to steer her away from anyone that may be willing to mentor with actual knowledge and not having a hidden agenda.

In my younger days I took great pleasure in strolling into this group to insist that the lady come sit with me and my ladies. Once at our table I would let the girls talk and only answer direct questions. I was very pleased that my girls would give her the straight stuff on who was worth the newbee talking to and steering her to the real deals.