Tal Tom,

That’s a very good question. While I can't say that I've ever come in to that particular dilemma, I think that has to do with how I cam in to my own "nature" and developed a good understanding of how my own id works.

I've been in IT since 98, mostly in helpdesk, and systems. I personally find that my self assuredness, self confidence, personal moral compass and forthrightness. Can be a benefit when dealing with customers...and a hick-up when dealing with my employers.

Will I change how I act? Or change what I do in a day to better "fit in"..no, if a company I work for is unwilling to accept me for who I am (they can go suck a lemon for all I care if they know what I am), and what I bring to the company. I will and have moved on. I know i bring not only a vast skill depth, years of experience. But my own values will not allow me to give anything but my best.

I have known a number of Dominate people through the years, and I find that the ones that are happiest, and most successful do not compromise on themselves, inside or outside of work.

And Yes we do tend to be "tell it like it is" insensitive, and a thousand other verbs. BUT this makes us unique in many corporate environments. Our Bosses, and team members KNOW that when they ask for your opinion, there going to get the truth...not a nose planted so far up someone’s ass they could pick it when they open there mouth.

(ok almost done)

In regards to others being threatened by you...Sorry but suck it up. It's part of the admission cost to the "club" ..in today’s society where men a all but neutered in popular western culture, there becomes a burgeoning resentment for Men whom truly exceed what they wish they could, but are to craven to do so. (Ok that’s gonna earn some flames as my first post)

So that in a LONG nutshell would be my advise/opinion/rant et el.