Quote Originally Posted by hybridmoment View Post
I am book smart in this but not actually in the act, in fact I was a virgin untill said boyfriend came around. He has dominant tendencies, and he likes it rough. I have a trunk full of toys waiting to be played with, but it's boring, since I've just been using them for masturbation. He gets embarrassed easy, and dislikes it when I have "girl-talk" with my friends. The closest to getting him to do this was that he's recently taken up calling my "baby girl," which he never had done in my two and 1/2 years of being with him.

He likes it when I greet him on all fours, but he doesn't really get into it from that. However, sometimes in the shower he'll get into the groove of things, but the likelyhood of this is about once maybe every two months. I've had talks, we've disscussed limits and safewords, and what he likes, yet nothing seems to blossom from this. It's very frustrating.
There are many facets to BDSM. D/s is merely one of them and Master/slave is merely one kind of D/s. You say he likes rough sex. That too is a facet of BDSM and it doesn't necessarily imply he is a dominant. Lot's of people are into the giving or getting of pain combined with their pleasure but have no interest in controlling or being controlled.

You may be in a take it or leave it situation.

But before we go there, let's go back to your original post and ask "What do you mean and think of when you say 'slave training'?" There may be approaches we can suggest based on better understanding what you are looking for.