A 'been there/done that' post:

Unfortunately, submissive newbies come here thinking that all the experienced Doms and subs know 'tricks' to turn their loved ones dominant. That there's some combination of words and actions that will unlock their husband's/boyfriend's 'natural' dom tendencies...and there isn't. You may get a little more kink, but that's about it. And if you are submissive, that'll come to feel worse than no kink at all, because you'll know he's doing it for you, which is completely the opposite of what you need as a submissive.

In the year that I've been here on the library, I can't count the number of these posts I've read, including my own.

Once in a while, someone actually DOES have latent Dom tendencies, and both partners are very happy and satisfied. It's just very rare.