Quote Originally Posted by hybridmoment View Post
I am book smart in this but not actually in the act, in fact I was a virgin untill said boyfriend came around. He has dominant tendencies, and he likes it rough. I have a trunk full of toys waiting to be played with, but it's boring, since I've just been using them for masturbation. He gets embarrassed easy, and dislikes it when I have "girl-talk" with my friends. The closest to getting him to do this was that he's recently taken up calling my "baby girl," which he never had done in my two and 1/2 years of being with him.

He likes it when I greet him on all fours, but he doesn't really get into it from that. However, sometimes in the shower he'll get into the groove of things, but the likelyhood of this is about once maybe every two months. I've had talks, we've disscussed limits and safewords, and what he likes, yet nothing seems to blossom from this. It's very frustrating.
Not knowing where you're from I'm not sure if this is helpful. You both sound a little unsure so maybe some gentle encouragement. Have you ever considered a local munch? These tend to be very nonthreatening gatherings where people talk about the lifestyle. some groups have demos and speakers others are more like a gathering of friends. Go with an open mind and your boyfriend may discover that kinky people are pretty normal too. Sometimes there are play parties afterwards but avoid that for the first few times and just get comfortable with each other.

It's a thought, http://www.drkdesyre.com/munchfaq.html has info on Munchs and locations look for something nearby and give it a try. If you have a choice try a couple until you find a group you're comfortable with.

Take care
Mad Lews