Quick update: The "relationship" has not ended, although we have sat down and discussed the issues I mentioned in my original post. We have come to an "agreement" of sorts and will try to make things work. The "collar" discussion will not be brought up any time soon.
I really appreciate all the responses received to my post and trust me, I haven't taken any of the responses lightly.
Thank you guys so very much and take care,
Tina