Hi & welcome animanota. Hope you enjoy the forum.

First up with an attitude like that, you're gonna be great at this. Welcome to Domland!

Thing is, there's no hard & fast rules here. Some people may think so but all subs aren't alike. You need to find out what this particular girl wants & likes.
Seems like you're doing that part OK.

Of course you need to set limits before you start...& make sure she has a clear way of stopping anytime she wants.

I doubt that there's too many D/s relationships the same, if any. It's a special thing between two people, that no one has any say over. Well not unless you break the law!

I personally like to get to know the girl real well first, find out how she thinks, what she's done & what she wants. Seems you're doing that too...

I add to that what I think she needs, & what I want. The first thing I usually ask is to 'just sit/stand still until I say' That way, she knows I'm in control, until released. I usually ask how it feels straight afterwards at first. Communication.

Ask 10 different Doms, or would be Doms & you'll most likely get 10 different opinions. This is just mine, which seems to work for me & my girls.

To me, you need to love them, care for them, then love them a little more.

The other thing is that you need to believe in yourself. That it's OK to be in control. You need to have your head together.

Man, it's a lot of fun- & that's the thing, it's fun- not some dark intense drama. Well it can be pretty intense.

Be sure & let us know how it goes y'hear?

Tojo