Welcome to this wonderful world animanota.

From a sub's position I would agree with Aesop when he says


Quote Originally Posted by Aesop
... Like Tojo said there isn't a rule book. Being a good dom for me means much the same as being a good husband. Communicate, cherish and pay attention...
And I would also add - go gently - if it feels right for both of you, then add a little bit more.

If it does not feel right for one of you, or both, pull back straight away, and COMMUNICATE, that means BOTH talking and BOTH listening! That way you will find out what is right for YOUR relationship.

You may find that your wife would also benefit from talking to some subs - sharing the highs and the lows - is it okay to feel like this when he does this, am I normal etc etc. This will not undermine your position but give her the strength to submit more fully.

Have fun, and never loose sight of your first love for her.

cariad