Journaling on line?

[gemmy]

I wouldn't count on that - at least not in a strictly online sense. Perhaps if you meet one in real-life, and he sees you as what he wants - the physical/emotional/mental combination, then he'll want to invest that time and patience. But online, it's too simple to give up and look for another sub. And asking an online Dom to 'jump through hoops' very early on (as he might view it) could easily drive him away, even the ones who might have been worth keeping. Keep an open mind, mg. You may find yourself surprised. And ask other subs who have been here a while - even if they have no experience with that particular Dom, they've probably formed some opinions based on watching his interactions with other Doms and subs. Feel free to PM me if you'd like - but I must admit, I know nothing about the Doms who hang out exclusively in the chatroom, since I'm so very rarely there.

I don't get much time at all in the chatroom - I did at first but haven't been able to really in ages.

My note on this was more along the line of those who aren't really invested for long-term and are just players don't have the patience to help a sub over her fears of trepidation and worry as much as a more solid, grounded, real Dom will because he understands better a subs emotional side vs her sexual side

So a Dom who takes the time to invest in a potential sub (again that dreaded patience word!), would be far more someone I would spend time with as opposed to someone who doesn't have enough security in themselves (confidence) to help you become all you want to but are scared to

Heehee! I wish it were me, cause that's great advice! (I think it was Tojo, above.) I would add a note of caution: some Doms will offer to 'mentor' when what they really are looking for is a subbie (or six) to play with and figure that paying the price of listening to her is worth it. Submission is so emotional and mental...beware of those who want the fun of having subs with none of the emotional and mental involvement. I can just hear it in my head: "yes, yes, it is hard to find a good Dom...how about I let you show me what you're willing to do so I can gauge your readiness...now buy a webcam so you can torture your nipples for me tomorrow."

Bah.

Ooops hehe my bad, sorry jeanne (in my defense, it was too early in the morning haha!)

I couldn't agree more with you on this comment though! well said! That tact has been tried so many times on me and as soon as you say, I first want to get to know you a little, before I commit any kind of sexual relation, you quickly find them 'dropping' off-line and moving on to the next unsuspecting victum *shakes head*