Thanks for replying Mina. I appreciate that you didn't just say all this, then disappear.

You're very welcome here. Please keep posting- we have spies in Vegas watching your every move.

I note you didn't answer the comment that 'just because you enjoy it doesn't mean it's not abuse??'

Yeah I think I can see your point- like you may have a relationship that's not ideal, but it's better than being in a pine box.

Look, I'm not there, I don't know what you're feeling or what's going on. I'm not here to tell you what you should & shouldn't do. All I ask is please keep in touch- you can see you've found a place where people aren't going to say 'OH NO' & run screaming up the road.

Say what you want- we're listening. If you want to talk on a more personal level, PM someone suitable- I'll listen & so will a few others.

Hey at least you've survived this long, you must be doing something right!

Tojo