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[Ruby]

I'm also not sure if I would enjoy it as much if there was a safe word - that takes something away from it. I want it to feel slightly dangerous, I want him to have total control like that. Btw, what would be a good safe word to use anyway? I can imagine most safe words would just encourage him more. Thank you for your advice.

We've got lots of threads around here on safe words.

My own safe words are fairly simple:

No,
stop,
please dont,
leg/stomach/foot cramp,
potty break,
mercy and
the ever serious -- no f*cking way!

When I'm with my husband or my pet, no means no. Then there's the more mundane phrases in everyday life:

cat/dog needs out
teen alert
neighbor alarm
knocking at the door / door bell
UPS man

It all seems so ordinary, but the reality is that you probably already have
safe words in place. If he listens when you speak and no, means no, then I wouldn't even bring up the concept.

If on the other hand, he's taking your "scening/playtime" to new levels then they are something to consider.

The easiest to use are green, yellow and red. Green for keep going, yellow for needing to slow down and adjust, ask a question, etc. Red for a full on stop.

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On another note...sigh Lestat.

You have excellent taste in your vamps Miss Mina!