Prep Work, Etc.

[denuseri]

oh also, remeber despite many misconceptions a good Master or Mistress doesnt take control over you, so much as you release control to them

[icey]

you can only plan and be prepared so much, same as any type of r/ship.
you can read up on the practical side of things which interest you,which is imo is always a sensible thing to do,joining forums such as here and talking with others can be of help,
its not always a good idea to have too many ideologys and expectations to begin with that can often lead to disappointment, go in with an open mind, never say never its suprising how things develop and change over time.

and until you meet somebody and begin a r/ship there's nothing much you can plan and prepare for, as others have said take your time,be totally honest with any potential Master and be honest with yourself too, go slowly no-one will expect you to rush in or 'know' everything and just remember there's no wrong or right way only what works for you.

good luck, and have fun

[Tojo]

A D/s relationship IMO is really not that different to any other. When you had your first kiss, I bet you didn't think too much about it....

The best way to be prepared is probably to make sure you & your partner care for & trust each other, that you have good communication, & take it nice & slow.

As W/B said, it's not all physical- far from it. As lily & jeanne said, it's important to be secure in yourself- again, that works in any relationship.

Just do it- how you feel is what's important, not the technical details.

As far as the other person being knowledgeable, I disagree. For one thing some of the lousiest Doms are quite knowledgeable re the technical side of things, but have no concept of caring or communication. Also, it's a whole lot of fun with someone who doesn't know a darn thing- trust me!

[DonnaEllen]

Thank you Icey - I think you hit on the very things that I have fretted over in deciding to venture into a submissive role. I liked the earlier post that stated (and I paraphrase, I'm sure) ...that I release control to Him rather than Him actually controlling me. It was the expectations, my fear of how to react properly that was freezing me up. Hearing you say (and others, too) that the relationship will grow slowly and we will respond naturally takes off the pressure of a "proper performance." Oh - and I've got to say, the experienced Dom sounds waaay better to me!