Quote Originally Posted by Ozme52
This statement is one of those danger signs, clear and presenst danger. If he can't control himself... and apologizes later... but "in his own way" as you put it... You are definitely in danger of getting "battered spouse" syndrome. It will escalate in violence as you continue to make excuses for his uncontrolled behavior. If he has so much rage that he regrets it but allows it to recur, you will end up in the hospital, probably multiple times. And when he begins to tire of you... he will begin to blame you for his behavior. You need to find another option.

Sorry Mina, but that's how I see it.
I shouldn't have used the word "sometimes". Only very rarely has he lost control, and I wasn't about to die or anything. He doesn't allow it to recur either, those were just mistakes. And by "in his own way" I meant he does something very sweet =)

Please don't worry, I'm very happy with him. I can't imagine he would "begin to tire" of me either, he is pretty obsessed with me. We have plans for marriage as well.