Quote Originally Posted by maddie
He loses momentum, creativity, and aggression after he has an orgasm, which frustrates me to no end.
It takes a lot of time and patience to adjust to the different levels of D/s you are both willing/desiring to engage in and you are not alone. Most couples rarely reach the same level of desire and method of engaging in it.

D/s isn't always about physical orgasm, that is why I understand your frustration. Some subs reach subspace on the mental rush of submission. Apparently your partner's goal is reaching physical orgasm when in the process of domming you. He should be paying careful attention to his sub at this critical level of play. He can catch up to his orgasm once you have reached 'that place.'

I hope you both engage in the all important 'aftercare.'

Quote Originally Posted by maddie
There are times when I'd be happy to "play" all day, so I'm trying to get ideas for him of what he can do in his "down times", for lack of a better term.
I don't know how much of a newbie you are, because D/s is an ongoing learning experience. If you haven't checked already, look for a thread on tasks. You may already know about the purpose of tasks, in your case, it should help you 'play' all day. If he cannot decide or choose one for you, task yourself and offer it to him.

Good luck in your journey.