I joined this morning, so i havent had time to know if i'm staying or leaving, lol. I can give a little insight based on other forums that i've joined in the past where i was a one-hit wonder.

Some of us that join these sites are nubs, and its intimidating at times to take that plunge. In my case, i'm admitting my sub tendencies, and after 33 years of a different way of thinking, its not the easiest thing to do. Some sites do not make a person feel welcome. Its frustrating to go through an introduction post, fill out profiles, and receive zero feedback, even if it is just a quick 'Hi" or "welcome". I'm very happy to say that this is not the case here. Thanks Aesop for the welcome greeting.

I realize that i have the responsibility to get involved if i want to be involved. Communication works this way, and this will never change. It's just discouraging for some to join a forum like this to be around like-minded people only to find out that there is an 'elitist' feel from the members. I'm not saying that this place is like this, and from browsing some of the kind responses, it isn't , but i've felt that experience in other places.

Others are probably looking for the 'hookup'. They hop on, figure they are gonna find someone kinky to play with, and when it doesnt immediately happen, they jet. (Yes, this is me on previous forums in the past, lol.)

So, why did i join?

To share with people in this lifestyle. I hope to learn more, and i hope to eventually develop actual friendships with some of you.

What will keep me coming back?

A feeling of acceptance from the other members.

Just my 2 cents