To my mind giving control to someone is certainly the ultimate power. I don't see anything odd about the sub being ultimately in control, especially in the early stages of a relationship. After all you'll be the one hurt/upset/scared or whatever if things go wrong.

One of the reasons it worked so well with katie was the way she let me know how she was, what was OK & what wasn't.

How else was I supposed to know?

Thanks for that Maddie, good to hear how it's going from a few subs- I just might learn something....

Dare I say we all might??

Tojo