Tojo,

Thanks for the link although it was mostly for females. I do have to take exception to one quote and maybe I should have done so in that post but I think it is apropos here also.

Quote: "I'm Married, my wife can't know about us"
If I have to explain this one too you, you've got problems. I have played
with many married submissives in my time, but ONLY with the express permission (and more often than not, participation) of their husbands. Safe D/s requires complete honesty.

You can't build a good Scene on lies. There are plenty of people that will
be willing to tell you differently; but please note, they will all turn out to be
adulterers (and hence, liars) themselves." End quote.

What I disagree with is that I am not an adulterer and have gone to great lengths to assure that I remain that way. I am a liar by omission due to the fact that I can't and won't tell my wife but I am up front with whomever I talk to about this BDSM stuff. If known up front then the scene, I believe, is not being built on lies, at least not to the participants. See it is probably best I stick with paid professionals. That way there is no long term commitment to think about.

I wasn't going to post in this thread because I have told my story in other parts of this forum. After following your link, I felt I had to chime in. If inappropriate please accept my apologies.