Quote Originally Posted by Delaquoi View Post
So as I got into actually doing S&M in real life I tended to take the dominant role, which maybe came easiest - e.g., I found most partners that way, and I got to take my pleasure. But could it be that what really matters to me is not my role in the scene but somehow the scene itself, the dynamics of domination and submission, the story, the event? Does that make sense to anyone?
Yeah, Delaquoi, it certainly does to me. I think the energy of the scene is a powerful draw. While I may be more dominant in the day to day aspects of our relationship, the story we write together goes where it will, with our roles changing as the energy itself ebbs and flows.