Anyone who agrees with everything I say needs to start looking for a good therapist IMO!

Poor choice of words, my "corporate management rating system"

My point is simply that a relationship is about feelings, not knowing things.

I've spent many years studying human behaviour, & how people relate to each other- it fascinates the heck out of me. I've had people talk to me about their marriages before I kissed my first girl.

One of the things that comes up time & time again, is that people tend to think too much, & feel too little.

A D/s relationship to me is more intense than a marriage. One of my favourite tools is to just stop & let her notice how she's feeling. That's primarily what D/s is to me- a meeting of the souls on a higher plane than otherwise obtainable. It's not about 'doing' but feeling.

There's no right or wrong in this, there's no rules- but for me personally, I believe that thinking gets in the way of feeling.

I say forget everything, think of nothing, & just be with your sub. Really be with her like you've never been with anyone. See what happens, & start with a clean slate.