The collar doesn’t have to be a choker, though some a really nice they aren’t very practical. It’s the commitment behind the jewellery that carries weight and meaning is what’s important, not the style. My collar is a Celtic necklace. Actually I have two, one simple design for everyday and one more expensive for night. Though most Celtic jewellery is silver mine are made of white gold and platinum. My husband had it custom made in Italy, but you can easily order it from the internet or have it done at your local jeweller, in design and material that you like. Try http://www.ventana-catalog.com/celticnecklaces.htm; http://www.celticmerchant.com/celtic-necklaces.html; or simply type Celtic Necklace at Amazon, results are amazing.