Ruby:

I sincerely appreciate your time and your thoughts. In response to your questions:

1. Why do I want her to be more dominant? That is a hard one to put into words. For as long as I can remember, I’ve fantasized about being dominated. It is a constant need/yearning that is always there and something I would love to share with her. But, it’s like a feeling or emotion. I’m not sure why it is there, only that it is. Does that make any sense?

2. How do I want her to be more dominant? Well, as a guy, I tend to focus on one part of my anatomy more than other things. So to that end, my first response would be that I would love for her to be more dominant in the bedroom. She also has a very strong personality, which is one of the things that attracted me to her. Over the years, she has become more comfortable with that personality. I would like her to be more dominant/assertive in her relationship with me regarding her wants and needs both in and out of the bedroom.

3. Where? I guess, to a certain extent, privately. We have children and positions in the community as well as friends and family that dictate that we keep such personal activities private. That does not mean that thing cannot happen out in public.

4. When? Most of the time. That being said, I’m not saying that I’m looking to be dominated every hour of every day. However, it should be remembered that at all times she is the dominant person in our relationship and I am there to support her and make her happy.

5. What types of things turn me on? I like being teased and tormented – being aroused. I like being embarrassed some. I love it when she takes charge and talks dirty to me. I also like some pain/punishment – including spanking, nipples, etc. Toys are fun and we have a few. I like being used, and to some extent abused, for her pleasure and amusement. Being required to do things I would not normally do and not knowing what will happen next.

6. Am I asking her to fulfill my playtime fantasies every now and then or to take charge of your life? Somewhere in between. Given our current lifestyle, it’s not really practical for her to take charge of my life, and I don’t really want her to. I’m not sure she would want that, that is a lot of responsibility. But I’m not looking for a now and again type of deal. But, as I see it, that is really up to her.

7. Am I a believer in the philosophy that women are superior and should dominate men 24/7? Yes, I certainly believe that women are the superior of the sexes.

8. Do I want her to dominate me to the point that she prevents me from having sex and yet she has sex with other men? No. I really like sex. If I have one hobby or interest above all others it is sex – that is just me. I am also not all that interested in her having sex with others, just as she is not interested in that of me. Maybe as a couple, it would be ok, but we have approached life as a partnership (although I’m looking for her to be the more dominant partner) and sex has always kept sex between us.

9. Do I want to be her pet? Servant? Submissive? Slave? Again - part time or full time? Yes, I want to be her pet servant, submissive and slave. However, due to our lifestyle and positions, this would have to be more private and part-time.

10. How will this change your current lifestyle? Outside of our private life, we really can’t make any big changes to our lifestyle. As explained above, we have children, positions, friends and family that would not be conducive to a public d/s lifestyle.

Thanks again for your time and your thoughts, they are greatly appreciated.

Poboy