...chuckles... welcome aboard! In my view, people generally "flame" when they are insecure with themselves--it's a defensive mechanism--they go on the offensive & subconsciously use that to feel better about themselves--it's useless & a waste of time.
But in any case... Glad to have you here... as for the lack of flaming on these boards, the answer is simple: it's just not tolerated here. There are 2 forums admins (Widget & Alex_Bragi) and a Site Admin (Torq), who keep the standards high and the boards clean and do a great job with it. I hope maybe to see you in chat at some point!
Enjoy the site.
delia