That first meeting

[Tojo]

Oh don't apologise denuseri, this thread has an excellent balance of the good & bad sides of D/s relationships & first meetings. You're very welcome to talk about your experiences.

Life is about balance- you pay insurance in case your house burns down, but you sure hope it doesn't. I believe that being aware of the dark side of things shouldn't mean that we never aim for the stars.

A good comment that you should be able to tell your prospective Dom about your safety precautions- if he's genuine he'll encourage it.

I also believe any Dom who has a problem with being doubted is sending out warning signals. If he's genuine, a new sub's safety & welfare comes way before his own insecurity.

Comments such as the one by Oz in another thread that 'no one would ever meet' if they we were all suspicious & took proper precautions, are nonsense.

[Ozme52]

Comments such as the one by Oz in another thread that 'no one would ever meet' if they we were all suspicious & took proper precautions, are nonsense.

Quote me or ignore me. Don't paraphrase me and get it wrong.

[Tojo]

My apologies Oz- here you go- exact quote from other thread:

If everyone followed your guidelines, no one would ever meet with someone they got to know online first.

I think it's nonsense to suggest that- taking proper precautions should not put people off meeting. Anyone who's that easily put off isn't too serious IMO, or has something to hide.

[Alex Bragi]

My apologies Oz- here you go- exact quote from other thread:

"If everyone followed your guidelines, no one would ever meet with someone they got to know online first." (Oz)

I think it's nonsense to suggest that- taking proper precautions should not put people off meeting. Anyone who's that easily put off isn't too serious IMO, or has something to hide.

Actually, I think it's too individual to generalise, like you both have here. Of course, that's just my opinion, and opinions will alway differ.

[Ozme52]

Actually, I think it's too individual to generalise, like you both have here. Of course, that's just my opinion, and opinions will alway differ.

Right you are Alex, too bad my opinion is apparently nonsense. On the other hand, I'm out there meeting people, making connections, and enriching my life. I have no knock against pure online encounters, but I prefer some human contact.

[Rowen]

Hi, perhaps it has all been told before... but this is indeed an important subject. I have taken the liberty the write some thoughts and guideline on safety in an online R/S, even before that first meeting. Hope you llike it and that it's useful http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/sh...187#post671187