My heart goes out to you B. In my opinion once a month just isn't enough, regardless of the reasons.

He says he does not want a relationship? How can a D/s thing not be a relationship?

I can't see anything you can do to change his mind. I'm sorry, but really it's up to him. If he's committed to you, you'll know it.

He said he'd see you once a week, & hasn't lived up to that? He's broken his committment.

How long have you been together? Do you have any sort of written agreement or contract?

I'm reminded of a saying here- 'Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer, but don't wish to hear it.'

It sounds like you need to have a serious think about the whole thing- you have rights here & deserve to be taken seriously.

I'm not there, that's just my opinion- you have to make up your own mind.

Tojo