Posting is very much okay and you've asked a good question. Finding out if someone likes bondage or submission is a lot like finding out their other interests. You need to talk to them. Open communication from the start and continuing as you go forward is essential to the success of any relationship.

If there is something that you can use to lead into the conversation, that can help. For example, go to a movie that might have the damsel tied up and threatened and confess over coffee that you got a little hot thinking about that. You can also use stories of your particular kink. Write one yourself and ask for help editing it or print someones else's work out and let her read it. Gauge her reaction--did she flush, drop her eyes, or run screaming from the room.

Share fantasies with your potential/current partner. Make it tit for tat or there is always the old truth or dare game. Sometimes I've found that once the conversation starts, it is hard to stop sharing. :weg:

Good luck and good talking.