^ ummm...that sounds really good......

Both Euryleia and ashton have very good points. Defintely feel out your potential partner, leading into what you are interested in. Get to know them well as a person, thoughts, feelings, fears. You have to earn their trust. Go from there.
It suprised me the first time i brought it up to my ex. At first he looked at me like i was nuts, but then i actually explained the dynamics to him. We talked at length about i was intested in, then i would ask "What do you think?" Once we came to a common ground we started off very slowly. A little spanking here, a bit of light bondage there. I topped from the bottom, at first. *blushes* Until he was comfortable. Then it just fell into place from there. I hope that helps.