Do not try switching just to effect fantasy. It doesn't work very well. You will be left wanting, or worse, very uncomfortable.

Try this instead:

Go to your local adult fetish/toy/book store and get the information for your local BDSM/fetish societies and events. It is very likely you have one where you live, no matter where you are. If you don't, the nearest large city will.

Attend some munches, get to know you sessions and maybe a play party or two. Get to know people, talk to them and understand how they do things and how they got started.

When you and your husband have made some friends at the events and in the society, politely ask one or more of them to help you with your fantasies. You'll be surprised at how many people are more than willing to jump at the chance to get their paws on the new flesh.

More importantly, there are just as many dominant couples as their are submissive couples, probably more, since submissives tend to gravitate toward dominant relationships.

Most importantly, my advice to you and your husband is this: If you cannot fulfill each others' fantasies personally, then find someone who can. Just keep in mind that each of you comes first in thew other's heart and mind.


Eventually, one or both of you may even become owned by another person or couple. This is fine. Much experience may be gained from this. I would suggest finding someone or a couple wiling to take the both of you, though. You don't want to be the one having all the fun, now do you? Likewise, you wouldn't want him to have all the fun either.

After a suitable time in the service of others, one of you might like to begin to learn to be more dominant. If that occurs, ask the person or people you have chosen to help you to teach one of you the art. I'm sure they'd be willing and, since it will be your husband practicing on you, or vice versa, you will know one another and each others' comfort level well enough to really have a good start at it.

Go from there.